Something a friend of mine just posted on karate and relationships a few minutes ago got me thinking. The chances of me getting in a relationship serious enough to get married has always been very low, and I’ve had several theories why exactly. But now something sparked in me as to why.
Chances of me finding a girl who understands me, is damn near impossible. Not just my drive to make myself physically one of the most athletic ppl on the planet, or to become one of the best fighters ever. But also how I mentally process things, how I gauge values, success, happiness, content. Seems like so many people think the same now a days. Especially where I live. Obviously when I travel, my chances will go up. But now it seems unlikely.
But one BIG thing I think really makes it unlikely, is that I almost prefer the thought of being alone my whole life. The idea of never having that romantic bond doesn’t really phase me. I’m completely fine with being alone. As long as that’s there well, you know, lol.
oh well, what can you do.
I wrote this on Facebook close to a year ago, and figured the people on tumblr could use it too.
Hello everyone, since I’m one of the most well adjusted and happiest people I know, I decided to write down some of my keys to being happy and content with life.
1) You have to realize what you have instead of what you don’t.
If you always dwell on what you don’t have instead of what you do have, you’ll always be miserable, always wallowing in depression for some reason or another. Instead be more positive and think about all of the things in life you do have. Examples being a home, a family/friends that care about you, a job or you’re going to school. You always get to eat whenever you want/need to, etc. Although sometimes things may look bad, it can ALWAYS be far worse.
This one is a little easier said than done. Basically whenever you’re about to get really upset or angry about whatever is bothering you, stop do some deep breathing for a couple of seconds, and really think about what’s bothering you. Analyze the entire situation, the original source of the problem, any extra factors surrounding the source that are making i better or worse. Is there anything you are causing or that someone else is causing? Once every factor has been brought to light and carefully thought through, then start thinking of solutions. Think of every single way this issue can be solved, then once you have done that, think of what the possible effects to the solutions can be. If you can’t think of any solutions try the process again a little later once you have cooled off. If you still can’t think of any, just try and accept it, it’s hard to do, but the more you agonize over it, the worse you will feel.
3) Listening and hearing.
Listening and hearing what someone else has to say can make a big difference. Whether its some life changing conversation or a small piece o advice that can change you’re entire outlook on a certain situation. The key is not just to listen, but to actual hear what they are saying, think about it , and try to use it. Just because its something you might not want to hear doesn’t mean it isn’t a good piece of advice. Remember that their is always someone out their who is wiser and/or knows more about a certain subject or situation than you will, so use some wisdom yourself and listen.
Surprise, surprise Kendall mentions something about health or fitness. Yea well shut up and get over it, lol.
Seriously, health really is one of the main keys to happiness, simply because if your body and brain are in good condition most likely you’re mind will be as well. This doesn’t mean super intense workouts or some of the strictest dieting in existence , this simply means taking care of yourself, so you can operate both physically and mentally better. Number one: try to eat at least 3 times a day, ESPECIALLY breakfast. If you eat 3 or more times a day you’re bodies metabolism can work pretty efficiently, and you will have more mental and physical energy throughout the day. Two: try and eat a little healthier, it doesnt have to be organic this and organic that. But instead of having a piece of candy or a honey bun or anything like that, why don’t you try having a piece of fruit or vegetable, or some peanuts and almonds, even chips aren’t that bad for you compared to a lot of other junk food out here. STOP DRINKING POP. Pop is probably the worst thing for you. Its loaded with sugar and carbs and other chemicals that just wreck your system. DIET POP IS NO BETTER. Try not to eat simple carbs such as white bread, white rice, white potatoes.
A good example of a meal plan would be this.
A glass or two of water.
Oatmeal ( or any source of whole grain carbs)
Protein source( eggs, proteins shake, fish, w/e)
Snack: almost, veggies, more fruits.
Lunch:More whole grain carbs, and protein.
Snacks: Same as before.
Dinner: Mostly protein and vegetables.
Drink plenty of water throughout the day, half gallon to a gallon.
Exercise wise, simplest things can help, run a mile in the morn or afternoon or at night. Do a lot of walking if you can. Do some pushups, crunches, or pullups if you can. It doesnt have to be intense, but getting atleast 30 minutes of exercise a day helps. When it comes to drinking and drugs, well you should already know, you see commercials about it every damn day. Either dont do it, or limit it.
Basically Treat your body and brain well, and it will treat you well.
This is the worst of them all. Sometimes things happen, but every day? Really? If you keep making excuses for whatever you need to do, business won’t get done, and it will lead to more problems. When you’re a kid its kind of okay, and it’s expected, and your parents or whoever will cover for you, but in the end when you’re 20-25 years old, it doesn’t fly anymore, because eventually no one is going to care or cover for you. Whether it’s something related to your job or school, or your health or some problem with a friend or family or with a significant other, excuses just give you more reason to do something you’re not supposed to do, or not do something you need to do, and in the end it will make life MORE DIFFICULT.
6) Chill out.
This one is pretty simple, stay as cool as possible. Alot of the time over thinking can be a good thing like I said in step 2, but sometimes it can be your worst enemy. It’s definitely worse when you are dealing with people or meeting new people. If you start freaking out over what someone is going to think of you when you don’t know them or just met them, so many bad things can happen. So just chill out and be yourself, if they don’t like it, too bad. Move on to someone else. That’s another thing being healthy helps you with, it gives you self confidence and it’s a good stress reliever. So whenever you feel antsy or nervous for whatever reason, unless its for your future career or something equally important, sit back relax and think, “what would Kendall do?”
This is it for now, I may come up with some other stuff another time. If you try and follow some of these steps, I can guarantee life will become easier, and you will become happier.
I must say, currently life is awesome. Combination of me not being at UPS, being in the best shape of my life, finally have the right attitude for school, most of my friends lives are starting to improve. Specifically my one friend Eddie who used to have a very rough situation but now his is definitely getting officially AWESOME. He’s almost an inspiration to me and to other people. Basically even though you may be in a very rough spot in life right now, as long as you try to stay calm as calm as possible and keep perspective, things will get better.
So yea I’m happy, mom is happy, friends are happy (for the most part) = life is awesome.
Also. I’ve recently discovered that I can dance, pretty well actually. Atleast when it comes to dancing with girls. I just had to relax. I’m still working on popping and breaking though.