- Learn to cut negative people from your life.
- Learn to be able to tell the difference between a friend who has some negative traits or strong negative traits and someone who is defined by their negativity.
- Learn to limit your time with someone who has negative family and friends. The person themselves maybe cool and positive or neutral even, but if they have negative ass friends and family. They gotta go, or atleast limit your time with them.
What exactly defines someone as negative? Well to me it’s several things.
Constantly brings negativity to your life through several means.
- insults you unnecessarily all the time. Real insults not just jokes.
- Tries to bring you down when you attempt to do good in your life.
- Constantly fucks you over when you need him/her.
- Is fake/ talks behind your back ALOT
- Feels the need to just bring you down all the time, when they are feeling bad.
- extremely jealous very often
- Doesn’t care/respect others
- Super emotional/ jumps to conclusions alot/uses ultimatums alot.
Those are some of the main negative traits I can think of so far. I’ll probably think of more later on.
3rd times the charm.
I find it strange that it is acceptable to fling hate around at whim but as soon as you say you love something or someone things get awkward.
In my opinion throwing around is definitely worse than throwing around love. Because that negative type of thinking just poisons your mind, whether you realize it or not.
Love on the other hand can be naive and a bit foolish if not used right. But not as damaging as hate.
THERE IS NONE.
Why is this topic still taboo? Why is this topic still something that’s bullied? I cannot explain it, but I have always been attracted to males outside of my “race”. Well, “race” can be a bit tricky for me since I am mixed and was raised by a light-skinned/white Puerto Rican mother. My family has a mix of Indian and black as well. So when I say dating outside of my race, I mean dating outside of my skin color.
There’s absolutely nothing wrong with interracial dating. NOTHING.
Dating preference in culture and a particular skin color is a beautiful thing. I’ve never understood the issue people have with interracial dating because my family (both immediate and distant) is prominently mixed. We embrace the different skin colors, cultures, languages, and beauty. Mixing has never been such a taboo thing for us. It’s celebrated.
As far as culture, I am often attracted to men that closely resemble my family upbringing. I love the hispanic culture. I love the way bachata y salsa moves my hips, and how the twist of flavors in a pollo guisado y arroz con habichuelas makes my tongue finds ecstasy in variety of spices.
Can I explain my attractiveness towards model-y looking men that stand over 6’2, with light eyes that spend time pumping iron and eating clean? Probably not. But, they do invoke some kind of chemical reaction in my brain. Can some men really explain why a certain switch is turned on when they see a woman with long hair, tight abs and a big booty? Can some girls really explain why a certain switch is turned on when they see a man playing with his children at a playground?
Loving and dating outside of your race isn’t self-hatred. I am a black woman and I love my skin color. I think that black, brown, yellow, white, purple – are all beautiful skin colors. Skin color doesn’t dictate the scale of beauty. Beauty is found everywhere.
Some men prefer dating women who are into fitness
Some women prefer dating men who are involved with the military
Some men prefer dating men who are into art
Some women prefer dating women who love traveling
Some women prefer dating men who can haul lumber and build a house
Some men prefer women who already have children
Some men prefer women who are equal in emotional attachment
Some white men prefer black women
Some black women prefer Hispanics.
None of these are wrong. Some people love the taste of steak, others hate red meat. Some people think that sushi is amazing, and others prefer fish in its original form. Preference is preference. I understand that some people have an issue with self-hatred. I saw a post on Tumblr of a girl saying she dated outside of her race because she hated her own. Just because that was the case for YOU, it doesn’t mean that applies to everyone else. YOU may have hated your skin color, but I EMBRACE mine. I actually get a little cocky sometimes because I think my skin color fucking amazing. Not all stories are the same. I believe that interracial dating opens more doors of acceptance and celebration of diversity.
With that said, I think that preferring to date inside of your race is fine too! Date what you like. Love shouldn’t have restrictions or boundaries. Love just is.
Hate is a strong word. A word I almost never use. To me it’s so bad becuase it causes so much negative emotions to be generated which can lead you to doing rash,illogical, sometimes terrible things.
A reason I never use it, even jokingly is becuase the human mind is powerful. It can convince you of things fairly easily. Which is why negative thoughts/reinforcement are so bad. When you continuously say you hate something when you initially don’t mean it you slowly but surely really start to hate it. Unless you keep that mentally in check. But if you don’t, it can eventually lead to nasty thought patterns.
The mind is like an endless road of ever connecting pathways. One thought can lead to another, which can lead to another, which keeps leading down different pathways. Sometimes you can create whole new pathways. Eventually those thoughts can become actions. Which sometimes isn’t good. So once the negativity train starts rolling, it can be hard to stop. Which it is why it’s necessary to stomp out almost all sources of negativity in your life, or at least keep it contained. Find an outlet for it.
Like myself. I’m VERY violent. Which Inherently I don’t think is that bad. It’s just that coupled with anger, it can be VERY bad. But Luckily I’m not an angry person, and I use martial arts to funnel that out positively. So let’s say you can’t get rid of all the negative traits in your mind or personality or in your life in general. Try to find a positive way to deal with it.
Negativity/hate can lead to so many destructive paths with yourself and with others. Try to keep it actively in check. Rather than just letting it flow and thinking there is nothing you can do about it. Remember, YOU control the way YOU feel.
Remember everybody, it’s all about the positivity.
EVERY TIME I see that quote on tumblr. I die a little bit on the inside. Mainly because people who say this think they are saying something profound or powerful, but in reality they are just as bad as the people who bash curvy/heavy figures.
There are HELLA women who get bashed and made fun of for being NATURALLY skinny. Just becuase it seems like the media favors slim frames, doesn’t mean there aren’t girls out there who can’t get their feelings hurt just as much as a heavy/curvy/average girl.
Think before you spew your shit over the internet/real life.
If there is anything tumblr has taught me since joining.It’s that everyone from every walk of life has some kind of body/self esteem issue.
edit: grammar checks.